{"id":6574,"date":"2015-10-15T00:23:07","date_gmt":"2015-10-15T04:23:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/theyogimovement.com\/?p=6574"},"modified":"2016-10-08T15:19:37","modified_gmt":"2016-10-08T19:19:37","slug":"how-to-get-your-spirit-back-when-it-feels-like-youve-lost-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/theyogimovement.com\/how-to-get-your-spirit-back-when-it-feels-like-youve-lost-it\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Get Your Spirit Back When It Feels Like You’ve Lost It"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ever notice how the kindest comment can make someone’s day, but just one negative comment can destroy someone’s week?<\/span><\/p>\n

Why are the emotional effects of the negative so much more extreme than the positive? <\/span><\/p>\n

This is an important topic.<\/strong> I find that there are tons of articles and posts about random acts of kindness, positivity, affirmations, and gratitude, but it needs to be known how negative words can drain our energy, and lead to trauma. <\/span><\/p>\n

When someone kills your spirit it can literally feel like a car accident.<\/strong> You feel tired, hurt from the inside out, your body aches, and the struggle is real.<\/span><\/p>\n

I truly believe that all people are inherently good. <\/strong>And yes, we all miscommunicate at times. Rarely do we mean to hurt someone, but sometimes things are said the wrong way. <\/em>Even if you didn’t mean it<\/em>, it’s <\/span>important to genuinely apologize.<\/a> The fact is, your words caused this person to hurt, and that’s all there is to it. It’s no one’s fault – it’s just cause and effect. <\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

[Tweet “A small acknowledgement through an apology can turn a frown upside down in a moments notice”]<\/p>\n

Why is it so hard for us to apologize? It’s the cure of any situation, but it’s so damn hard, right?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

When I was younger, I used to wear my hair in a ponytail. One day I was wearing my hair down, and this guy turned to me and said, “Wow, I’ve never seen your hair like that. You look amazing. When you have it in that ponytail, you look awful.”<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

That “you looked awful<\/em>” comment kind of retracted the “you look amazing<\/em>” comment. That stuck with me for years, and even now I’m paranoid when I wear my hair in a pony. I feel like I need makeup, or a cute headband or something. This isn’t the best example, but you understand what I mean, right? <\/span><\/p>\n

The worst is when it’s something you’re super excited about, and someone makes a snide or sarcastic comment to bring you down. <\/span><\/p>\n

Examples: <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Excited Person:<\/strong> I can’t believe I lost all of that weight, and after a year of training, I finally just finished my first 5k! If you told me to do that two years ago, I would have laughed at you!
\nDisempowering Person<\/strong>: Easy. Anyone can do that. <\/span><\/p>\n

Excited Person<\/strong>: It took me forever, but after all of my market research, and lots of roadblocks, I just created my first product! 
\nDisempowering Person:<\/strong> Is there really any demand for that?<\/span><\/p>\n

Excited Person<\/strong>: I entered the contest with no expectations, but I just won a trip to Europe!
\nDisempowering Person<\/strong>: Gross. I’d never go there. <\/span><\/p>\n

Excited Person:<\/strong> I just got engaged!  
\nDisempowering Person:<\/strong> To that loser boyfriend I met last week?<\/span><\/p>\n

Here’s the thing…<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

This isn’t a reflection on you – it’s a reflection on them. If they’re putting down your happiness or success it’s because they’re projecting their insecurities on you. <\/span><\/p>\n

This stuff is going to happen.<\/strong> It’s tricky because once these people get into your brain, it’s like a time machine. All of the sudden, you revert back to your old confidence levels, and forget all of the self work you’ve done to get where you are. Before you know it, you’re second guessing your decisions and feeling like a loser about your awesome accomplishments!<\/span><\/p>\n

Am I right or amiright<\/em>?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Here’s what you need to do:<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Connect with your What and Why:<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

Even when you can\u2019t see the light at the end of the tunnel – be clear<\/em> on your dreams. For example, my dream is to have time and location freedom. I\u2019ve only been able to tap into this since I left my last job. It\u2019s been a long road, but I\u2019m learning a lot, and for the first time – I\u2019m not letting self-doubt bring me down, and I’m not letting anyone<\/em> create uncertainty for me. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can bet people have told me that I’m crazy, they’ve tried to talk me out of it, but I have complete clarity. <\/span><\/p>\n

[Tweet “It’s time you lived your dream and not someone else’s. “]<\/p>\n

\"If<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

2. Take action towards your dreams:<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

I know it feels like your energy is drained, and you’re probably having a hard time getting yourself out of bed. The only way to get your spirit back is to take small steps towards your vision. <\/span><\/p>\n

Stephen Covey from 7 Habits of Highly Effective People<\/a> says to schedule your priorities, don’t prioritize your schedule.<\/em> Maybe the first step is just writing out all of your priorities, choosing one, and then taking the first step towards it. Cross off the things that waste time or can wait<\/em>, and just focus on progress and quick wins. <\/span><\/p>\n

For example, if you want to find a new job, write down 5 actions and commit to just one a day. It could be reaching out to friends, revamping your resume, searching on indeed.com, updating your linkedin, or perhaps sending out just one resume. <\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s scary, but if you don\u2019t take action, you won\u2019t get anywhere. The only reason I’ve been able to get where I am now is because I took action, and I’ve learned from my mistakes. It\u2019s because I moved forward even when there was fear, self doubt, and uncertainty. Don’t let anyone hold you back or tell you you’re limited in any way. <\/span><\/p>\n

[Tweet “Trust that the universe has set you on the right path, and the timing is just right. “]<\/p>\n

3. Surround yourself with people that believe in you:<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n

These are people that not only believe in you, but also embody the qualities and lifestyle of the person you aspire to be. When you get in a rut or have doubt – you need people to contact to bring you up. <\/span><\/p>\n

No, you don\u2019t need to be dependent or validated, but you need an uplifting community. And, just as important – remove the people who don’t uplift you. Remove the people who bring you down and consistently kill your spirit.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Imagine if you weren\u2019t ever around inspiring and like-minded people. Who would you learn from? I\u2019m not saying you couldn\u2019t<\/em> do it on your own, but it\u2019s a lot harder and<\/em> a lot slower. <\/span><\/p>\n

It makes such a difference if you can find communities that are going through the same things as you. Or, from people who are more successful, so you can be uplifted by their stories and encouragement. <\/span><\/p>\n

\"Moving<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

4. Move Your Body: <\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

For me it’s yoga, but you might love spin classes, walks in the park, or rock climbing. Whatever it is – find an activity where you can focus on exercise and health.<\/span><\/p>\n

Exercise will help your sleep patterns, give you energy throughout the day, and help you make healthier choices in your life and diet. <\/span><\/p>\n

This not only makes you feel better in your body, but gives you the time to slow down your mind, which will help you solve problems and get clarity. <\/span><\/p>\n

\"You<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

5. Find a place that gives you energy and clears your mind:<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

When someone brings you down, and drains your energy, it can feel like your soul’s been ripped out of your chest and stomped on. Not to mention, it kills your motivation. <\/span>It’s hard to get out of bed. Your mind will be cloudy. And, you’re probably crying a lot. <\/span><\/p>\n

You need find your way back, and one of the best ways is go to a place that brings out the feelings you want to create within. <\/span><\/p>\n

I go to a place that I associate with freedom. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

I love anywhere with lots of nature. There’s a little place close to where I live called Dinky Dock filled with lots of trees, animals, and a gorgeous lake. People are kayaking, on boat tours, and playing in the water with their kids. I always see little duck families, and it makes me so happy.<\/span><\/p>\n

I can just go there to sit, close my eyes, and the feeling of the breeze on my skin just sends the total feeling on freedom through my heart. Most of the time I bring my yoga mat, and it’s the surest way to put me back on my game. <\/span><\/p>\n

 \"In<\/a><\/p>\n

It doesn’t happen overnight, but you need to recommit in each moment to get back to your normal abundant self. <\/span><\/p>\n

Call a friend. Take a walk. Eat something healthy. Take a ride. Do whatever you need to do to get your energy back one step at a time. <\/span><\/p>\n

Believe in yourself. Remind yourself why you\u2019re doing what you\u2019re doing, and know you\u2019re going to be ok. <\/span> <\/p>\n

I believe in you. <\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ever give up.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Watch your words.<\/strong> If you need to stop and think before you say something – do it. If you put your foot in your mouth, and realize it later – apologize. The end \ud83d\ude42<\/span><\/p>\n

Share with me in the comments the feeling you want to bring out from within, and a place you associate with that feeling! <\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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